However, if a person becomes obsessed with trying to determine the negative thoughts that other people have toward them, it can start to affect their life. People with bipolar disorder are commonly prone to this type of thinking. If they say that they like something, they do. If they do not want to get dinner, maybe they are not hungry or have other plans. For example, if a person wants to go out with a group, they should proactively ask others to go out with them. Likewise, rather than waiting for someone to greet them, a person should say hello first.
If a person begins to act how they want others to treat them, they may start to see people responding in the same way. When a person is on the receiving end of this behavior, it is not their fault.
Instead, the individual doing the abusing has some issues on which they need to work. A person should seek to remove the offending individual from their life. If they need help, for example, in the case of spousal abuse, they can look into getting support from organizations such as the National Domestic Violence Hotline. People often find that staying physically active can improve their overall mood and outlook on life. A person can try taking a walk several times a week, playing a sport, or doing another activity that they enjoy.
A person may also benefit from spending time outdoors. The authors of a review of studies acknowledge that an increasing amount of evidence supports the idea that spending time outside can improve mood and help a person recover from stress and mental fatigue. If a person feels an overwhelming sense that everyone hates them, the feeling should pass shortly. However, if a person feels this way for long periods, they should seek additional treatment from a healthcare professional.
A doctor may be able to help a person find counseling services that can help them start feeling better. A person may be suffering from an undiagnosed case of depression, bipolar disorder, anxiety, or personality disorder. Hatred is a distressing feeling that requires a lot of emotional energy. Distressing feelings often prompt people to seek unhealthy self-soothing behaviors, such as eating comfort foods or using alcohol or other substances to suppress and avoid their distress.
These feelings may also be combined with a tendency to withdraw from healthy activities such as exercising and spending time with supportive friends and family. In that case, that person might eventually experience some long-term consequences of chronic stress, such as systemic inflammation.
So, whether through unhealthy self-soothing to cope with the feeling or long-term sympathetic nervous system activation, chronically feeling hatred toward others could adversely affect your health.
Turner suggests some strategies that can be helpful if you feel like you hate everyone:. Frequently experiencing anger, frustration, or discomfort can make you feel like you hate everyone. These emotions can take a toll on your mental and physical health, and make life a lot less enjoyable for you. Practicing empathy can help you change your mindset and make things more pleasant for you.
Struggling with stress? Our guide offers expert advice on how to better manage stress levels. Get it FREE when you sign up for our newsletter. Your Privacy Rights. It may help you to learn why this unhelpful feeling occurs and how you can change your mindset and stop thinking all the people in your life share the same sentiment toward you.
The first sign that this may just be a perception is that superlative word in the middle: everyone. Sanam Hafeez , a neuropsychologist and director of Comprehend the Mind in New York City, says that thoughts such as these may form as a way of coping with adverse life events. A highly sensitive person HSP may also tend to feel this way. Some of which are:. You can try the following 3-step check-in to help assess your feelings.
According to Hafeez, if folks are genuinely disliked, it can be helpful to take a careful and honest look at any truths that may be associated with a situation — which is not always the easiest thing to do. Ask yourself whether you need to forgive someone for not appreciating what you have to offer.
Is it worth your energy to worry about whether someone likes you or not? Because to those that matter, you aren't. That's all you need. Don't take for granted what matters, over strangers that could very well only want something from you, such as taking advantage of your kindness.
Thanks for your response, but thankfully I DO go out of my way to help people I don't know. My motive for doing so is love. I will continue to love people, whether friend or stranger, until I drop dead. What else matters, really? Why else would I have responded at 1 am and stayed online until almost 2 waiting for Ryan to respond? I could have easily gone to bed, especially since I have a new baby to care for and I am recovering from surgery so I could use the sleep more than anyone.
I don't care if someone is a friend or stranger, weren't all strangers once friends? Everyone is deserving of love and care no matter if I am their next door neighbor or if we're across the world. I see. Jeez, I have always felt a type of empathy for others but it's becoming mire and more clear that it isn't actual empathy I have.
I just prefer fairness and not liking seeing others hurting or in pain. I can tell that you really do care for people, the second person I have directly commented with, the last person really blew me out of the water, in realising. I am more selfish than empathetic. I try to tailor advice to what I can read of a person.
Because I believe that different people, require different advice to be helped. As you can see already, I am very self absorbed, it's even reflected in my writing here. But I am who I am. I just can't 'feel' for others, like I can for myself. It's like a synthetic empathy, If anything, a sympathy with advice, I try to give.
No matter how you say it, because I cannot feel for others, in the same way that you have for others. Real empathy. My advice changes, like the changing of weather. I can never truely understand the empathy, that even shines through, in your writing on a screen. My intentions are to help but unorthodox in a way. It's ok! Everyone has a different style of writing, helping others, and different gifts and talents.
How boring the world would be if everyone were the same! And you're right, each person requires different advice to be helped. What I found to be effective is starting with something general, and letting the person lead where they want to go with it.
That way I find out if the person wants advice or just a listening ear. Keep doing what you're doing, I can see you have a kind heart! I noticed you said love for others. Really, I hardly ever even ise the word. Not sure why but I want to use it when it really matter and I mean it.
Having said that, perhaps the fundamental flaw in my way of attempting to help other, is that I don't love them, I don't even love myself really but working on it.
If I'm going to spend my whole life with me, there whether I like it or not. Well, I'll just have to find a way to make it enjoyable, without potential collateral damage to those around. My style is really something like, internalised feelings I may have had in the past, manifested to match up with others, to help. Without the emotional connection though, it can fall through, since I forget because, that's not how my mind and perception works. I try to see other people's points if view.
Why do they do that? Why would they think that? They obviously have their reason for it, you can settle them down or see eye to eye when No one's seeing eye to eye, not trying to figure out their cause, their meaning and what they are trying to achieve, for what reasons.
I think you will have a better chance discussing with them and trying to have them see reason or both see eachother's reason and come to an understanding. Oh, the errors stick out so much.
For some reason I can miss the 'S' for plurals of words, when on a device. It's good to bring your own experiences into helping people, especially if you're going through something similar.
No matter how you word things or what you say, I think generally people are appreciative you went out of your way to help them. As for using the word love, I encourage you to look up "agape" love, pronounced "ah-GAH-pay".
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